Tuesday Lunch Talks – Stop Trying To Please Everyone

I have realized that if you just try to make the film you want, you will find the right audience. If you try to please everyone, you’re going to make really boring films. – Drew Goddard

Well a few days ago l was chatting to a  friend of mine, during the conversation a comment came out, “in this life you can’t please everyone”! Those words really stuck on me. Boy, oh boy, it’s a full time job trying to please everyone because everyone is uniquely built and have their own expectations. Think, about it, even 200 years of living is still short why spend it sulking rather life should be enjoyed. One of the most interesting things about humans, is that we want to be accepted by everyone or to fit in, simply put just to belong somewhere. Even the pictures we post on our social media platforms, “yes ama selfies”, its a desire to just get so many likes, but mannn some people will just look at your picture and click on that dislike button and you wonder “excuse me, hello there, what kind of behaviour is that? it took a while to get that pose, you know lols” Yes that’s us people. The real problem is trying to please EVERYONE *shaking my head*

At times, l find it difficult to say no like most people do but saying no to some people is absolutely a bold step. As a person you have your own audience (big or small),  people who will generally enjoy your company, your personality and who will make time for you. Everything and everyone under the sun has its own audience, meaning not everyone can relate to everything that is happening.. 

Please tell me, who plays for All Blacks (by the way that’s a New Zealand rugby team). Well honestly l really don’t want to know. As much as rugby is cherished by many, it has its own audience, oh boy, oh boy that certainly does not include me. By the way, this is me expressing myself. I absolutely, don’t have a problem with rugby but it doesn’t really give me the thrills. l am not a fan of series as well but there’s an audience for people who watch series and i’m like give me some youtube videos and you have me hooked but that’s me. 

In trying to get everyone to like you, you lose your values, you waste resources, invest in so much time, energy and effort. In some cases you lose yourself. As crazy as it may sound, some people will just not like you, no matter what you do, so stop trying to please them. Yes we all need validation but not everyone has to validate you. l remember back in primary, where everyone, wanted to become the cool child or chill with the cools kids you had to be extra…Honestly that same perception still dwells in us even as adults.

My question to you, everything you do,do you do it for yourself or you trying to please everyone. Please who and what matters, not everyone and everything. Just be authentic, love recklessly,have lots of fun, focus on your dreams, mind your own business and above all else be the best version of yourself. 

With Love

Tarie

 

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#B2B Washday – Shampooing

Hey Natties

So on today’s post l will further discuss on the other option of washing your hair which is shampooing. If you missed the previous  post on Co-washing (click on the link to direct to post), please read. Let’s get right into it!

Wash day is a big event for natties and using the right shampoo makes all the difference or else the wrong shampoo will definitely lengthen your wash day. Shampooing basically means to cleanse your scalp by removing any product build-up due to many factors. Well there’s been talk regarding using alot of oils and moisturizers, whereas overtime you may subject your hair and scalp to build-up that simple Co-washing may not be able to solve. From a personal research, l have discovered that shampoos range from clarifying, moisturizing, sulfate-free, sulfate etc. As your own hair ambassador, just be sure to know what your hair needs and which shampoo to use.

*Good shampoos remove product build-up from ingredients such as silicones, mineral oil, petroleum etc. Most natties rave with the clay washes to remove build-up e.g Bentonite clay. N.B. Clay washes should be done once a month to avoid scalp irritation if used in excess.

*A good shampoo provides a good  amount of slip meaning slipperiness, if shampoo has slip it lathers well onto your hair and scalp.

*Ensures that the detangling process is made easier

*A good shampoo does not dry- out your hair after using it.

What are Sulfates?

Sulfates are primarily surfactants, meaning they have the ability to attract both oil and water. They are detergents found in many household and beauty products. Due to their unique properties they allow shampoos to separate dirt and oil from your hair and help actually clean your hair. They are also the reason why shampoos lather when mixed with water.  Sulfate shampoos, depending on your hair habits and how easily build up occurs may sometimes be the only answer to ensuring that your hair is properly cleansed and is back to it’s fresh state. It’s all about frequency and moderation.The most common sulfates found in shampoos are:

Sodium Lauryl Sulfate  (SLS)

Sodium Laureth Sulfate (SLES)

Ammonium Laurly Sulfate (ALS)

In the future l write a post about sulfates and sulfate-free shampoos. Now that the theoretical part is done with, let me outline a shampoo guideline that can help you.

Shampoo Process

Step 1: l plait my hair into medium twists as this allows me to work on one section at a time plus hair is easier to manage.

Step 2: l apply my Aunt Jackie’ s “Oh so clean” moisturizing shampoo and lather onto my scalp and massage the product to remove all the dirt.

Step 3: l rinse with warm water and repeat step 2, two or three times.

Step 4: l just wash with cold water.. Wash-day done!!

Product Suggestion

  • Oh So Clean Aunty Jackie’s moisturizing shampoo
  • Tresemme shampoo with Aloe Vera

Just a little side note, another type of shampoo is known as a dry shampoo. Well l haven’t tried it but l will do.  Anyways let me know if you have tried the dry shampoo method and if it works. 

**As always, just let me know below, what is your favorite shampoo and why?**

With Love♡♡

Tarie

 

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