10 Tips To Stay Motivated This Year

Life is too short and remember, do all you can with the time that you have! We are still in the first quarter of the year and we need the same energy to push through till December. 

10 Tips to help you this year:

1.Invest in Yourself

Life begins with you. Many times as people, we are swamped by our daily routines, working for someone from 9-5pm, but do you take time to work on thyself. Do you set attainable goals for yourself? Do you reflect daily on how much time you have spent advancing yourself. Ladies and gents lets not be in the habit of building other people when you remain stagnant. If you haven’t started just start. Whether you start on a french class *hint hint me*, daily read a book, advance your studies, gym etc… Just invest in YOU.

2. Stick to Your Plan

Don’t be the kind of person, who is captured by everything because this earth has alot to offer. Live by your plan, the moment you have wandering eyes you will lose sight of what it is you want to accomplish. Fix your eyes on your plan!

3. Don’t waste time

At times you find yourself in a place where you can’t grow, you stay in an unhealthy work environment, so how will you push for motivation. Time waits for no man. Don’t be quick to shift but be smart about your moves. Just don’t stay in a place that limits you.

4. Be relevant now

We all make plans for the future, which is not a bad idea but you have to bear in mind you’re currently living in the now. Make sure you’re not sabotaging your present by focusing too much on the future. Let your star shine NOW..

5. Do Everything in Love

Work done in love is worthy of praise. When you look back at your work you will totally appreciate what you would have accomplished. Make sure everything you do, you do it in love.

6. Surround yourself with Like-minded people (Networking)

Let’s be honest, 365 days are no joke and at times you just need that support. l think networking with people is a great way to stay on track and be aware of your environment. Attending seminars and meeting up with people who have similar ideas and goals will give you that push for this year and as a result inspire you…. Don’t isolate yourself!

7. Stir-up your Desire

As individuals we all do what we really want to do… You’re the only person who knows what you have lined up for 2018, so don’t be lazy and keep yourself on track…

8. Wake up with purpose

Lately, l have been reading Intentional Living by John Maxwell (Book review post coming soon) and he says for life to be worth living be intentional about every move you make. However, this applies to this year, don’t be passive but be intentional about 2018…

9. Mentorship

Before l discuss this one, l will make a post on Mentorship such an important issue but rarely spoken about. However, when you have someone who has walked the path and you’re accountable to, they will guide you. On days where you feel lost they are there to assist you on your path.

10. Eat and Exercise Well

Probably you’re wondering how this made it on the list but on the reals we know the countless benefits of eating well and exercising. Staying motivated is not only a mind thing but also physical thing.. On days when l do eat well and exercise my body just feels so much alive and you have peace of mind.. Ask any gym or fitness junkie, when you look bomb you feel bomb!

So these are my top tips to stay motivated this year!!

** If you have more tips, feel free to share below**

With Love♡♡

Tarie

 

 

 

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I Leave YOU Peace

John 16:33 ESV l have told you this things so that in me you will have Peace, in this world you will have troubles but l have Overcome…

Believe it or not, when l read this scripture l was surprised. Did Jesus just say that, like where those his last words to say “l leave you Peace”. So my question would then be, why would Jesus instruct us to have Peace, why not Joy, Love, Money, Patience so much to choose from but he chose PEACE.

What is Peace? Well l would say its to avoid strive, free from friction or commotion, just to be calm. My understanding was exceptionally correct but what did Jesus mean? He came so that we may have an abundant life and now he leaves us PEACE. So the true meaning of peace is to be sound/ to be complete / a wholeness of life. Wow! Jesus wants us to live a life of wholeness. Generally Peace is a difficult thing to attain because we are faced with so many trials but the word of God clearly insists us to live lives that are complete or full of Peace. If we look at the life of Jesus he lived a remarkably peaceful life, you wouldn’t find him at the 411 “gossip corner”  but when Jesus arrived at a place he would say Peace be upon you.

Lack of peace in our lives will result in worry or confusion. As people, we are constantly troubled by issues of life but Colossians 3:15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to Peace. Some of the trials or illnesses we face daily would be as a result of not being at ease. Lets be honest when you are at peace, there’s clarity, there’s a level of calmness. This draws me into the the parable when Jesus calmed the water. The disciples were troubled but when Jesus instructed “Peace, Be still, he took charge of the situation and stood in authority. So essentially the moment you embrace peace ‘YOU TAKE CHARGE OF THE SITUATION AND YOU ARE IN AUTHORITY”.

Jesus left us Peace so we ought to partake of this blessing. May we live each day bearing in mind that peace is what we carry. Imagine just living in a household that is so peaceful, working in an peaceful environment, peaceful nations etc, we would be able to show love without fault and be happy!! Remember to cultivate an attitude and a language of PEACE. The subject of peace has really challenged me, hope you are all encouraged.

So my question to you, why do we struggle to attain peace in our livelihoods?

** As we grow in the word of God, do let me know below how we can live lives full of Peace and what factors cause us to fall out of Peace in our lives**

 

With Love♡♡

Tarie

 

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#B2B Washday- Co-Wash

Hey Natties!

I always wonder why washdays are time-consuming like the process is no joke but that’s why we are on this journey to enjoy our washdays *smiles*. I remember when l started out, l would dread my washdays because honestly l wouldn’t get the expected results but that has all changed. So let’s get theoretical..

Well there are so many ways of washing or cleansing our scalp,namely Co-washing, Shampooing, AVR rinse, Clay Masks etc and there has been alot of debate on which works better… Well l have had the privilege to have tried most of them and l will share my thoughts..

So before you decide to wash your hair, it is vitally important to start with a step called Pre-poo. l learnt this years back but when l stopped prepooing l noticed a significant amout of shredding.

What is Pre-pooing? Well from my understanding its the first step you take to prep your hair by sealing an essential oil/oil mix before you add removing any dirt… When l started out l thought it would be wise to shampoo or co-wash then seal in the oil but nope l was soo lost. What prepoo does, it opens up the the hair cuticles to allow your scalp to breath and release of the dirt so when u wash your hair its squeaky clean *yaay* l hope you now see why we have to Prepoo.. Prepooing can be as easy as applying coconut oil on your hair, wrap a plastic cap and leave it for 4hrs or overnight or just have a simple oil mix… Step 1 done…

 There are different ways people use to wash their hair but l will just discuss Co-Washing in today’s post.

Co-washing(Conditioner Washing) is pretty much washing your hair with conditioner instead of shampoo, the name sounds fancy but that’s Co-wash. Frequently washing your hair with shampoo will result in excessively drying out your hair and will tend to leave it frizzy. Co-washing is believed to be more gentler and to leave your hair feeling more moisturized.

Benefits

* Alleviates Dandruff

*Hydrates the scalp

*Minimises knots

Lately l had stopped Co-washing because l wanted to see our my hair would cope without Co-washing and l must say there hasn’t been much change. Well l normally co-wash my hair once a month, shampoo once a month and recently l have added the clay wash which l will ramble about in another post. Girrrl Clay washes are Life! Plus l make it a point to co-wash or shampoo my hair even in a protective style..Gone are the days when l never used to wash my hair under a protective style, sooo gone!

1. Firstly l section my hair into different parts and work with one section at a time. I have found this method to be user-friendly as l give each area the same amount of attention.

2. l spritz my hair with aloe vera juice and water then l apply my first coat of conditioner to my hair with coconut oil (this helps with retention of hair and protects the strands during the washing process). Whilst I’m adding the conditioner and coconut l ensure that l’m detangling my hair. l detangle using my hand as l find my hands to be more gentler and l can easily work through my hair. When the detangling process is done with, l just plait my hair into a twist.

3. I continue with the same process until my entire head is covered with conditioner.

4. Leave the conditioner for 5-10 mins, then l wash off with warm water then final rinse with cold water to close up my hair cuticles.

5. Wash Day Done…

Below is a list of 2 Conditioners that work well with my hair ..

1. Organics

2. Tresemme Naturals with Avocado

So if you feel like your hair feels dry after shampooing how about you try Co-washing, it could do wonders to your hair..

**Let me know what your thoughts are on Co-Washing, what your experience has been like and if you Co-wash which products do you use**

With Love♡♡

Tarie

 

 

 

 

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Why am l left behind???

lt feels like my life is not moving, l am not at peace with myself, l can barely survive, what will tomorrow hold, will l get a promotion, l am repeating this course, oh gosh l don’t have savings yet, what am l doing in this life, l don’t see much growth in my career, relationships, l am failing to attend church because l don’t have bus fare, oh how did she/he get employed when l graduated a few years back,my business is not growing, WHY AM l LEFT BEHIND, when life is happening! Do you relate to those thoughts? As humans we are constantly on the battlefield with ourselves when life seems to flow smoothly for other people,(our peers,relatives, parents, friends) when our plans do not work according. Being in a dry season is a horrible and difficult place to be in especially when you’re trying to build your life, hence one easily swift into depression/frustration/anxiety etc.

I remember a time in my life when job-hunting just seemed to be a never-ending cycle. Day and night, l am constantly sending emails, l got advice to physically drop off CV’s at the firms premises (*it shows that you are literally serious*), l registered with employment agencies but l got to a place where l threw in the towel. When l fell asleep my mind would race, so what can l do, how will l do it, l got to a place of l am running out of time’and things are not improving, WHY AM I LEFT BEHIND. We live in a world where people occasionally post their lives on social media and you can easily get consumed by that lifestyle but always remember Who you Are and honor your path. Comparison is your greatest enemy in life because every individual has a certain calling and purpose for their life.

Lamentations 2:21 lt is good for a man to bear yoke while he is young

Yes some problems just seem never-ending but whilst you are still young encounter many difficulties in life that will surely make you stronger. As a person you need to discover and know yourself. Surround yourself with positive people and a positive environment, that way you can shift your mind from a negative place. Everything in life is seasonal, so you have to quickly discern which season of your life you are in. l am reminded of King David, he used to encourage himself in the Lord. Some problems in life require us to truly have a One on One with God, your parents, church mates, relatives might not understand but YOU have to encourage yourself to pursue the life you want.

**Let me know what are your thoughts on comparisons and how we can help each other**

With Love

Tarie

 

 

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#B2B Hair Porosity

Hey loves!

So in today’s post l will gladly share my thoughts and understanding on how best we can retain moisture formerly known as Hair Porosity. In my previous post, l did a brief introduction on porosity but now we will unfold the issue.

Generally as natties we struggle with which products our hair will love, how to start a hair regime, how to combat dryness, sealing in moisture etc… Well have you ever thought that, your diet, the external environment, genetics all contribute to how your hair thrive. Remember, one hair strand is made up of layers so knowing the structure of your hair cuticle is essentially important.

 

What is Porosity

Hair Porosity is the ability for your hair to hold or absorb moisture – simple as that! Again a hair strand is made up of layers so..Knowing your hair’s porosity is a great deal on how best you will care for your hair – as a result you are able to know which hair products work best for you. Wouldn’t that be a life-saver just knowing what products your hair will thrive in because after all, we want our hair to grow..Below l briefly explain the three main categories of hair porosity.

High Porosity has holes and gaps in the cuticle which allows too much moisture into the hair and the moisture escapes fast. This type of hair is prone to frizziness, looks dull easily tangles in our humid African climate.

Suggestion:

  • Women with high porosity should use leave-in conditioners, butters and creams to seal moisture and help fill gaps in the cuticle.
  • Using anti-humectants in our dry and humid is also is an advantage as this will help to retain moisture and seal damaged cuticles.
  • Ideally the LOC method would work best with porous hair.

 

 

Medium Porosity hair is what every woman would aim to achieve. This is when there’s a balance of moisture in the hair and the cuticle layer is loser. The right amount of moisture enters whilst preventing too much  moisture from escaping. Least amount of maintenance is required and hair can hold styles for long.

Suggestion:

  • Occasional deep conditioning is required but not daily
  • Women with normal porosity just have to stick to their regime

 

Low Porosity this type of hair repels moisture meaning moisture fails to penetrate through the tightly cuticle. Hair is prone to build-up because the cuticles are closed up so products end up sitting on the hair.

Suggestion:

  • Women with low porosity would need to use moisturiser’s rich in emollients e.g. shea butter, coconut oil, mineral oil etc would be a good start.
  •  Products that are liquid based are essential because they prevent heaviness on the curls and able to moisture the curls. Preferably look for products that have ingredients that list water first
  • Due to product-build, minimise protein conditioners that will leave the hair feeling stiff-like.
  • Using light-weight oils is an extreme bonus because the oils will easily penetrate through the closed up cuticles e.g. argan oil, grapeseed, olive oil
  • Using moderate heat, incorporating hot oil treatments will work with low porosity hair as this will allow the tightly bound cuticles to open and allow moisture in.

 

Below is a guideline, on two tests that are normally used to assist in realising where your hair porosity level falls under. 

 

Strand Test– take two fingers, run them through your hair, if you feel any bumps that indicates that your cuticles are open and you likely have high porosity.

∗if your fingers glide smoothly you likely have normal porosity

∗if fingers glide quickly on strand and strand feels slick you likely have low porosity

Float Test (only works on freshly washed hair no conditioners, just washed) – take different strands of hair from different areas of your head and place each strand in a glass of room temperature water. Wait for 5mins,

*if hair sinks within 3mins – High Porosity

*if hair floats – Low Porosity

*if hair stays mid-way of the glass- Normal porosity

So that’s a wrap on today’s post, l’m sure hope l have  brought some light..Remember your hair porosity level can change overtime due to different factors so just be aware of your hair changes. Knowing your hair porosity and your texture plays a crucial role in hair product selection.

**Just let me know below, the porosity of your hair and which products work well and if you tried the porosity test, was it helpful?**

With Love ♡♡

Tarie

 

 

 

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